What reminds me of Britain whilst living in Pakistan?

There are many things that I yearn to see at times for example weather, greenery, pollution free environment, shopping centres, style sense, potatoes, buildings and their centuries old history, National Health Service, devout and deferential public officials, saying “Cheers!” especially as a goodbye and above all the very delightfully charming accent. I hope my audacity of not mentioning English premier league and the famous fish and chips will be winked at.

There are many times when I miss UK for example when someone calls toilet a “restroom” or a “bathroom” as it changes and destroys the whole purpose and implies of a room where you’re having a dump while  snoring or pissing in the bathtub. But here, I would only pen down the things that I believe can make someone like me proud to be a part of that country, even for as little time of 6 years and at times really creates an urge to make our homeland like theirs.

In England if one bumps into someone, both of them without even looking at whose fault it was, would profusely apologise to each other. This might sound only an ordinary promotion of courtesy but in reality it has helped them to grow a culture of responsibility. A tolerant society, where people not only accept their mistakes but also own others’, is something that makes me miss UK.

Here in Pakistan, people overtly represent their school of thought, be it of political allegiance, religion or part of the country they live in. Flags are waived, anthems are sung, oaths and pledges are recited and all the “isms” are repeated and grasped day in and day out. Whereas, in the UK, these traits are hardly noticeable except on special occasions and yet they are among the nations who are most proud of their history and of what they represent. A balanced society, where no one over emphasises or tries to push their views on others, where opinions are cherished, and reactions are not directly in the opponent’s face, is something that makes me miss UK.

Britishers are famous for their culture of decency and fair play. These individualities of impartiality, veracity and serenity cannot be well judged other than by the art of queuing. Brits find it so important that understanding how to line up is included in new citizen’s test. In Pakistan, however, perfect examples of creating chaos in public places by undisciplined behaviour are very frequently found. Hence, there is an alarming rise in Pakistan’s crime graph, solely due to the lack of discipline. A disciplined society, where everyone waits for their turn and not just barge in anywhere they feel like, is something that makes me miss UK.

In England, the rule of law prevails. There are judges who have character and courage to admit that they might overreact in sentencing. A Judge who was hearing a case of a thief, who confessed that he stole heating oil from a village hall, at the Worcester Magistrate Court, refused to sentence the thief and said “My wife is on a small village hall committee. I feel very strongly about this sort of behaviour. I feel I would overreact and consider that he should undoubtedly go to prison for this. It would be wrong for me to sentence him. I may be seen to be biased.” Whereas, in Pakistan it may seem that rule of mob sometimes prevails, when a sitting High Court Justice does not only reject the bail of the accused but also adds salt to the injuries by reciting some poetic couplet while doing so. It does not seem to bother the Honourable Justice that everyone knows that he was once arrested because of the orders of that accused and the Honourable Justice has filled and fought cases against that very accused as a practicing lawyer. A society where everyone adheres to the rule of law and where justice for all is not different from the justice for tall, is something that makes me miss UK.

Among the abovementioned issues there are many attributes that the world and especially us the Pakistanis should learn from the United Kingdom, to become better human beings and hence a better nation. Making a brew is definitely one of them.

Wise Men Of Gotham

Pakistanis, being a nation, can clearly be declared as one of the most befuddled nations. What are the factors that make me give such a big statement? What are the reasons that make this nation stand among such bewildered nations? Unfortunately, there is a big majority of our population, which does not really know as to whether it makes up a nation or it is just a confused crowd? Maybe because even after the independence of over six decades, we are still trying to figure out who is our real enemy i.e. Indians, Afghanis, Americans or Taliban? Maybe because we have raised a generation who considers it disrespectful, or shall I say “uncool”, to be well –versed with its country’s history, as if there is anything dark and sinister about it. Maybe because even after having enjoyed independence for over 6 long decades, we are still not sure what form of political system is perfect for us i.e. democratic, dictatorship or Islamic way of caliphs?

I cannot help to notice the irony of the situation that while being so unsure about our present, past and future, we are busy in pointing fingers at the world at large and distinguishing who is the culprit and who is not. From the oil reserves of Saudi Arabia to World Trade Centre New York, Pakistanis are busy disclosing all the related conspiracy theories. We are a nation that is all the time pinned on among numerous conspiracy theories. It is like a lady, who has been divorced four times, is advising her friend about the matrimonial issues. We are basically our own enemies who chose to suffer.

Some of our blue-blooded country fellows do agree to disagree with these points and argue that Europe has achieved their democracy after an evolution of hundreds of years and it is but natural for a nation’s life cycle to go through these hardships in order to achieve the easy street and do well. I will only respond to them by saying, that neither two wrongs make one right nor denying our problems will prevent us from damage, just as a lack of belief in gravity will not prevent us from tripping. The only effect these denials have, are that we will be stumbling in the dark for a longer period of time if we do not mend our ways.

The first step towards solving a problem is, accepting that there is a problem. Only then we would be able to plan and strive to achieve big hit. Even with a bird’s eye view, we can find out that discipline is the most basic ingredient to convert a mob into a nation. For many years, Pakistan has been a helpless victim of growing indiscipline in all walks of life. From certain political parties and selfish political leaders to government servants or shopkeepers, everyone has played its part in shaking up the state. There has been indiscipline among the masses, resulting personal gains of ulterior motives. We have been noticing a very ruthless phenomenon of strikes, demonstrations, public violence and uproarious proces­sions and aggravating rampages. Unemployment, economic depressions, cultural erosion, intellectual lethargy, crisis of character, all wet concept of liberty and way off understanding the purpose of education are among the chief contributing factors of our present undisciplined crowd.

We Pakistanis are perfect example of creating chaos in public places by our undisciplined behaviour. We show lack of adequate and manners in everything we do. It does not matter how trivial or consequential it is.  Be it from boarding buses and trains, driving on the roads, standing in a queue to choosing our leaders or running a million dollar organisation. There is an alarming rise in the crime graph of country, due to the lack of discipline.

A little wiser approach will be to start on individual level. We should start criticising ourselves first then to blame the world and the government for the injustices they have done. We should have an everlasting criticism of where we are at present and where probably will we end, if we keep on following the same road. We must start looking beyond our own personal lives and our own personal interests. We should start looking at the bigger picture. We must always be very critical of how we use our authorities, which way our society is heading and how we can imagine of a world where abuse of power is no longer, where want and violence is no longer and where society is the epitome of philanthropic behaviour.

 Above all, we should recognise that the promotion of courtesy, benevolence, culture of decency, responsibility, et cetera, is only a matter for individuals, not governments; that on a societal level, it is a matter of culture and custom, and is not a matter of law. In a nutshell, if we do get the picture of the problems we are exposed to, we must act prudently to take ownership of it, and try to solve them without recourse to coercion.

Since at the moment, we are under an impression that democracy is the only way out, therefore we must understand the importance of self-discipline. We are a nation, unlike some nations, where democracy was never a child of masses, but actually was a gift of some enlightened leaders which fortunately were present at the time of partition, it followed that our ideology has never been democratic and indicating contrast, the laws have always been. So the contrast between social ideology and legal ideology is blatant in many aspects and is also sowing the seeds of these issues.

If a nation dreams of achieving power and success then it must have leaders, those who dare to see a little farther, to believe that they can lead a better life than present. And if the nation wants this perception to be an inevitable result, it must not forget that having a vast army of citizens capable of understanding and following these leaders intelligently is also paramount. These citizens must have an understanding of the government’s actions and policies, from the smallest town election to the highest assembly of the country. It must be no closed book to them, and each one of them should be willing to carry his own particular responsibility to the best of his abilities or else, the whole army will lag.

The biggest responsibilities lie on our educators and our parents, who have the power to change the criteria, definitions and value systems used by us. Those systems do not need to be reformed, they need to be replaced. We need values that demand the practice of peace, love, patriotism and understanding the same way we now practise war, terrorism, violence, aggression and intolerance. Our nation is capable of achieving absolutely everything. We only need to take the right road. It all comes to the choices we make. Either we want to live together as brothers or die together as fools.

``You can build a wall, or you can build a bridge. It all depends on the love you give. If you build a wall, your world is very small, but if you build a bridge, you can conquer all.''